“No one is always gorgeous. No one is always sexy. But love is a decision. Waiting to see whether someone is good enough is childish, and it is bound to make the other person feel on some level as though they’re auditioning for the part. In that space, we feel nervous, and when we are nervous, we’re not at our best. The ego is looking for someone attractive enough to support. The mature and miracle- minded among us support people in being attractive. Part of working on ourselves, in order to be ready for a profound relationship, is learning how to support another person in being the best that they can be. Partners are meant to have a priestly role in each other’s lives. They are meant to help each other access the highest parts within themselves.” Marianne Williamson

This is beautiful. It is amazing to see how childish I have been. To see how I have auditioned so many men in my life!! How I have looked for what is wrong with them instead of allowing their greatness shine.

There is no reason that I cannot let their greatness shine, support them in being attractive and then choose not be in a relationship with them from love. Rather than saying no out of fear and rejection, which I have done many times before!

I am excited to go on my first date after ending my engagement and looking for the man’s brilliance the whole date rather than only half of the time. The other half of the time I usually spend finding fault in who they are!! Not a fun place to play!

I love the idea of supporting people to be attractive. We think that if we challenge them or fight them they are going to rise up to the challenge and be beautiful. It usually works the exact opposite. When we bring our swords they bring out theirs.

I let down my sword today. And, I commit to playing a priestly role in the next relationship I am in! Oh, what a lucky man he will be, and oh, what a beautiful woman I will be!

Let’s look for the good in people and find their beauty, and honor them!! This is the path of the miracle worker!